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Okay; no alcohol, drugs, pain-killers with
codeine, anti-depressants, shopping-sprees, one-night
stands, constant hours on the internet, days and nights
at the office, marathon phone calls, obsessive cleaning,
gambling, bingeing, starving: simply NO ADDICTIVE behaviour.
None, ziltch, all gone forever, if we become self-aware
enough to stop our ‘triggers’ in their path!
Coming off our substance of choice is like losing a limb
– how will we ever cope without it? Once we accept
there is life after quitting, that abstinence is possible,
another, possibly greater fear sets in – what now?
‘Just don’t pick up’ is only
the start of building a new life and identity. Our individual
ways to cope in times of stress may differ, yet essentially
remain the same. Like every other person we need to switch
off from negative emotions and stressful situations. But
our complete collection of coping mechanisms are gone
through self-awareness of the consequences!
What? It seems unbelievably unfair!
We’re abstaining, from every trigger, yet we’re
still not really happy!
We’re still searching for something to make us feel
better.
Why? And how can we live fully in our life of sobriety?
What can ease a sense of inferiority and lack of self-confidence?
What can give us peace within?
Help! I’m sober and clean
Abstaining from who I’ve been…
Still, what does life mean?
Life will never be stress free!
So how can my personality
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| Self versus ego |
The self is not the ego.
The self is our original blueprint for being human, including
our soul
And spirit which remain Eternal.
Our ego is based on our conscious mind, including our
perception of the world and the social masks we wear while
living.
In Second Stage terms ‘the addict’ is a wounded
ego, a spirit-ill personality which lacks self- awareness.
An addict unconsciously allows a sub-self to rule their
lives.
This negative un-true self perpetrates continual destructive
thoughts and behaviour. We allow this ‘self’
to run riot without heed of any consequences, while our
ego feeds justification for our actions.
With lack of self awareness this self –run personality
will literally ruin our lives.
Having a spirit-ill self an addict can only think of themselves,
in their own ego, the addiction won’t allow us even
a glimpse of what else our ‘self’ is capable
of being. Once we attain respite from mind –altering
substances we can concentrate on recovering our true self.
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